Meet the Founder

Hey there,

I’m Kirstin Bouse. If you’ve landed here feeling tired, foggy, or like the woman in the mirror has been replaced by a slightly bewildered and often p!ssed-off stranger, you are not broken. You’re in a transition as big as puberty and becoming a mum, and I KNOW it is seriously messing with you.

I know this because I have done the time. Seven years of perimenopause. Seven years of bone-deep exhaustion, losing words mid-sentence and mood swings that could take out a small village (ask me about the 'skip bin incident' - it's a family favourite). And yay for me, HRT did nothing. (I am genuinely stoked if it's worked a treat for you).

So yep, seven years of white knuckling it AND asking myself on repeat, “What the actual hell is going on?”

Now I know life gives us plenty of growth moments. Moving away from family. Being a business owner/entrepreneur. Changing careers. Studying. Travelling. I’ve done them all and they’ve stretched me in good ways.

But perimenopause? Well its one of those transitions that start from the inside. Like puberty and pregnancy and that postnatal bit. All 'fun' times. All of these are sparked by neuroendocrine changes that kick off a chain reaction through your body, brain, and life. They don’t just tweak your perspective. They rewire you — biologically, psychologically, socially. And they are not polite about it. They kick the bloody door in, rip up the carpet, and start moving walls around before you’ve even had your morning coffee.

When I finally crossed the menopause finish line there was no parade. Just a deep exhale and a solid “thank God, I made it”. And the women I told? They got it.

Perimenopause stripped me right back. It shone a torch on all the ways I’d been putting myself last. It made me drop the people-pleasing, say no without guilt, reclaim my time, unapologetically build a life that worked for ME and walk away from what was draining me. Brutal? Yes. Messy? Absolutely. Worth it? Every damn second.

I’ve been a Clinical and Forensic Psychologist for nearly thirty years. I’ve worked in courtrooms, hospitals, universities, prisons and therapy rooms. I’ve built and sold a thriving group practice, mentored dozens of clinicians, spoken on national stages, and been a regular media voice. But nothing has made me sharper, clearer, or more on-mission than my own midlife and menopause reckoning.

Now, through All About Her – The Centre for Menopause, and my soon-to-launch podcast Midlife Bites, I’m here for women who are done with the martyr cape. Women who are ready to stop waiting for permission and start building a life that actually fits. Women who know the old rules were crap and are ready to write their own.

If that’s you, here’s the truth. You are not failing. You are becoming. And it is going to be one hell of a ride.

With warmth and a 'you fcking deserve it' cheer,
Kirstin (aka KB and @the_midlife_psychologist) xxx