You Were Taught to Be the 'Good Woman'.
A 'Good Mother'.
A 'Good Wife'.
A 'Good Daughter'.
A 'Good Friend'.

And it's Costing You.

Our Next Round Begins 3rd October 2025

For as long as you can remember, you've been holding it all together.

You've been the responsible one. The capable one. The selfless one.

You've given, adjusted, accommodated. You've held space for everyone else's needs. And you've been so damn good at it.

But here's the thing - you've been self-sacrificing to keep the peace. It's not just about being agreeable or avoiding conflict. It's because you've been taught - explicitly or implicitly - that you are responsible for the emotional tone of our relationships.

So you take on the emotional labour required to maintain connection and harmony, often doing this quietly, invisibly, and at great personal cost.

And here's where that's gotten you:

Waking up each day with a quiet, gnawing sense of discontent - but pushing it aside because there's too much to do.
Feeling exhausted down to your bones - not just from doing too much, but from never feeling like you are enough.
Carrying the invisible load, the emotional labour, of everyone else's emotions, schedules, and expectations - while no one carries yours.
Feeling resentful, but guilty for feeling resentful, because that's not what a 'good woman' feels.
Asking yourself "Is this just life now?" but struggling to imagine anything different.

Yes, I'm In!

Here's the truth:
This isn't just stress. This isn't just midlife. This is conditioning.

For generations, we women have been trained to put themselves last. To be agreeable, accommodating, grateful. To see ambition as selfish. And as for our 'wants'? Well, we're taught not to even allow them space in our hearts or minds, let alone in our realities.

We're told to prioritize being good over being free.

And then midlife comes along and calls BULLSHIT on all of that.

This isn't just a personal struggle. It's a global one.

The way you're feeling right now? It's not a personal failure. It's the result of a world full of rules, designed to keep you small and safe inside a 'right way to be a woman' box.

A box that teaches us to abandon ourselves and that sacrificing our needs, our desires, our wants is normal and natural. Then we get to midlife, when the hormonal rollercoaster means the accommodation and servitude veil begins to lift, and the not-so-rosy glasses reveal the true cost.

We’ve been conditioned to shrink. The ‘Good Woman’ rules are designed to keep you small, agreeable, and endlessly self-sacrificing.

We’ve been handed an impossible load. Research shows women carry the vast majority of unpaid labor, emotional labour, and caregiving often at the expense of their own well-being.

The world isn’t set up for us women to thrive. Everything from medical research to workplace structures assumes women will just ‘cope’ with systemic invisibility.

You’re not imagining it. You’re not overreacting.
And you’re definitely not alone.

It's okay to Want

despite what you've been told by every societal, familial and patriarchal
"good woman rule"

What you're feeling, what you're thinking, what you're waking up to - it is NOT a 'midlife crisis'.

In truth, it is a midlife reckoning.

And with the rose coloured glasses lifting and the hormones of accommodation and servitude decreasing (thank you peri/menopause) we start wanting.

No matter how well conditioned you've been, no matter how driven you've been to tick all the "good boxes", you're catching whispers - fleeting but persistent:

I don't want this anymore.
I don't want to keep doing it like this.

Is this really all there is?
But...what do I even want?

You're starting to see and feel things you haven't before and start to wonder "has this always been here?"

It's bloody confusing at best, downright discombobulating at worst - it's like all the "givens" of life are up for grabs.

Are you making it up? Are you having a crisis?

The answer is (EMPHATICALLY) No!

If you only knew!

This is par for the perimenopause to menopause messy + magical years!

What you're experiencing is a natural, necessary part of your evolution. Not a malfunction. Not a breakdown.

This is the moment your old identity starts to crumble so that something truer can take its place.

.... It is a very normal, very natural part of the midlife transition to call into focus our life - to begin to question all the 'good girl' 'good wife' 'good daughter' rules we've living and breathing (some consciously, others not so much).

And it kickstarts a dismantling within us. It begins with the
'I don't know who I am anymore?' and 'I don't want [parts of this life] anymore'.
Big big statements that bring utter confusion and fear.

It can feel like standing at the edge of the cliff with no idea what the next step is meant to look like - only that you can't keep standing still.

Now sometimes it happens so fast, it’s like the rug gets pulled out from under us and we ungraciously fall on our arses. Other times, it’s a little slower. The discomfort grows. The voice gets louder.

Either way, while it all seems up in the air, and unclear, at the very least KNOW what you DON’T WANT. Even if you don't have the courage (yet) to say it out loud.

You don’t want to:

✔ feel invisible in your own life.
✔ carry the mental and emotional load while no one carries yours.
✔ do all the work to maintain harmonious relationships - the relational labour.
✔ wake up every morning with a gnawing sense that this isn’t enough.

You matter. You want your life to be yours again. And that wanting? It’s not just okay. It’s sacred.

But it’s been so long since you truly felt you had choice, control, or power over your life that, if you’re honest, you have no idea what you DO want.

And yet, here you are. Because you do want something. Even if you can’t quite name it yet.

All of a sudden you’re seeing the rules you’ve followed, the roles you’ve played, the expectations that have shaped you in newly sharpened focus.

And they’re all starting to crack. What used to feel fixed and unquestionable, the routines, the relationships, the way you show up in the world, is suddenly up for renegotiation. You notice yourself pausing before saying yes. You catch the edge in your own voice when you’re about to silence your truth.

You hear the question rising more often: 'Is this actually what I want?'

These tiny cracks might look like impatience, boundary-pushing, moodiness, or defiance—but really, they’re doorways. Evidence that the old framework no longer fits. Proof that your true self is stirring beneath the surface, asking to be let out.

And in that messy, magical space, a question emerges:

What if I get to want more? What if it’s ok to WANT what I want?

And that’s dangerous ground right there, because it’s EXACTLY where the good girl conditioning can kick into high gear, and self-gaslighting begins.

Is it really that bad? I SHOULD be happy, right?
Am I just being ungrateful? Look at everything I ‘have’ already.
Other people have it worse. I should just suck it up.
Good mothers don’t complain. Good wives don’t question. Good women don’t ask for more.

You question your own reality because you’ve been so deeply conditioned to disconnect from your own needs and desires that they feel like something foreign, even wrong.

But they’re not. They’re yours. And they’re waiting to be reclaimed.

Imagine waking up one morning and feeling lighter

You’re no longer stuck in an endless loop of questioning whether your needs matter, they do.
You speak up more, not just in big ways but in everyday moments, asking for help, setting boundaries, saying hell no’s and hell yes’s when that’s what you truly want AND without guilt.

You start making small but undeniable choices for yourself. Not for your partner. Not for your kids. For YOU.

You begin to feel the edges of self-sovereignty forming, a glimpse of a future where you belong to yourself again.

And it all starts with one tiny rebellion.

Hi! I’m Kirstin.
I know this firsthand.

I entered my 40s feeling pretty happy with life, and had a healthy business, great friends, four kids, and a marriage that looked enviable from the outside.

Then, in 2018, my husband blindsided me with “I can’t be married to you anymore.” Within months, I lost half my life as I knew it, his family, friendships, financial security, and I was thrown into an unexpected reckoning.

As if that wasn’t enough, six months earlier, I had a hysterectomy and no one told me that very soon after, I’d be thrown into perimenopause.

I was exhausted. Burnt out. Crumbling under the weight of it all.

EVEN as a psychologist who spent her days inside of women's heads, hearts and minds, I did NOT recognise that this wondering + wanting was a normal, natural part of a women's journey in midlife.... specially when she's (me, I’m still talking about me - sigh) been a good girl ticking everyone else's boxes with no conscious realisation she wasn't ticking her own.

I created Want not just because I’ve lived it but because I know how to hold space for it. As a psychologist, mentor, and woman who’s walked through identity loss, menopause, and systemic conditioning, I’ve helped thousands of women make sense of their midlife reckoning. This work is personal. But it’s also professional. And it’s sacred.

In this space, I won’t fix you. I will guide you. I will help you see clearly. I will hold a mirror to the truth you’ve been taught to doubt. And I’ll remind you, every step of the way, that your wanting isn’t just valid, it’s vital.

But something else was happening, too. I started seeing things clearly for the first time.

The ways I had self-silenced and shrunk myself to accommodate others.
The hanging onto parts of my life that I had intentionally created and loved, but had been draining me for too long.
The deep pull to break free from roles and rules that had never really fit.
The exhaustion that wasn’t just from life but from ignoring my own needs, wants and desires.

And that included kidding myself that catching up regularly with friends, making sure I took the time to exercise, building both my career and business AND travelling from time to time for work conferences, was meeting my own needs, wants and desires. It wasn’t.

That’s what menopause does. It rips off the rose-colored glasses. And you start seeing, really seeing, what you can no longer tolerate.

This was my midlife reckoning. My midlife self reclamation. And maybe that’s what is beckoning to you too.

That’s exactly why I created Want.

A short and powerful program designed to help discombobulated, frustrated, “is this all there is” questioning midlife women just like you to shift from feeling lost, stuck, and unseen → into the first steps of a small but undeniable shift towards self-reclamation.

And the truth is this midlife self-reclamation is NOT linear.

This process isn’t linear. It’s messy, disorienting, and at times uncomfortable.

It feels cloudy, confusing, and uncertain.

You worry about how others, your kids, your partner, your friends, will react if you start changing things.

But you keep coming back again and again to one key awareness - life as you know it is NOT enough.

But it’s not all bad news.

Somewhere beneath the doubt, a new kind of knowing is forming. A pull toward more:

✔️More juice.
✔️More joy.
✔️More being seen, heard, and valued, not just for what you do, but for who you are.
✔️More certainty that you don’t need permission to take up space.

The shift is subtle, but profound. A slow recognition that you don’t need to earn the right to exist beyond your roles. You have had that right from the moment you were born. To be you. All of you.

That you are allowed to claim something for yourself, without guilt, without justification, without asking for permission.

INTRODUCING Want: The First Tiny Rebellion

Want is a short, powerful program designed to move you from feeling lost, stuck, and unseen → into a small but undeniable sense of self-reclamation.

The 6 Steps of Want: A Path of Reclamation

6 Sessions

Every Friday - 25th July - 29th August (inclusive)

@ 7:30-9am AWST

Each session of Want is built to meet you right where you are. Together, they guide you through a process of un-learning, re-seeing and reclaiming.

This process isn’t accidental. It’s been carefully crafted based on what I know women need during midlife disruption: emotional clarity, practical reflection, and powerful but gentle reorientation. These six steps aren’t just sessions. They're a path toward remembering who you were before the world asked you to be so much for everyone else.

The Cracks Appear - Recognise discontent not as dysfunction but as the beginning of your reclamation.
The Rules we Breathe - Unpack the invisible expectations shaping your life.
The Voice Within - Identify the subtle signals you've learned to ignore.
Tiny Rebellions - Practice small, powerful acts of self-honouring.
The Guilt Hangover - Unlearn the shame of wanting, needing and saying no.
The Becoming - Name your no-longer truths and glimpse the woman rising beneath the roles.

You’ll gather in six deeply interactive sessions (with replays) combining storytelling, witnessing, and soul-deep guided reframing. You’ll be invited to explore and gently unpick the 'good woman' roles that have kept you small and reclaim the parts of you that were silenced, sidelined, or forgotten in the name of being liked, needed, or 'enough.'

You’ll finally feel seen, validated, and not alone as you hear other women say the things you’ve barely dared whisper to yourself. Even when you’re not speaking, you’re shifting.

You’ll begin to rewrite the story of who you are, not as someone who needs fixing, but as a woman finally remembering that her wants, needs, and truth were valid all along."

Real-Life Reclamation Practices

You’ll receive simple, grounded micro-practices to integrate into your real life (yes, the messy one, not some fantasy self-care schedule).

You’ll learn how to catch the micro-moments where you normally self-abandon, find your own internal “no,” pause and practice saying yes to yourself, bit by bit.

These tiny, doable shifts create lasting change. You’ll start showing up differently. More anchored, more honest and more integrity with who you actually are and what you really want (and don’t want). You’ll reclaim choice and space and move towards being a Sovereign Woman.

A Price That Reflects the Power of What’s Inside

$297 No upsells. No gimmicks. No guilt.

Just six potent, live sessions, plus lifetime access to replays, grounded real-life practices, and a circle of midlife women walking this same messy, magical path.

This isn’t just a “nice-to-have.”

It’s a necessary space to begin again.

Because here’s the truth: when you’ve spent decades putting yourself last, saying yes to yourself in a real, tangible way changes things.

$297 reflects the true value of this container, the live guidance, the witnessing, the subtle but life-altering reframes, and the space to remember who you are underneath the roles and rules.

It’s still accessible.
But it honours the depth of what’s on offer.

No more shrinking. No more apologising. No more discounting your own needs.
This is your moment.

I'm in!

Sacred Sisterhood Circle

You’ll be held inside a circle of midlife women who are cracking open in the same way you are. You’ll hear your voice in theirs. You’ll be witnessed in your truth.

You’ll realise your story isn’t weird or broken - it’s shared. You’ll remember what it feels like to belong without performing, fixing, or pleasing.

Isolation becomes connection. You’ll see that your voice, your wants, and your boundaries are valid. Your guilt will dissolve into solidarity. You realise: “I’m not the only one. And I never was.”

What You'll Walk Away With

This isn't about fixing your whole life overnight. It's about noticing something shift inside you. Something subtle but undeniable. As you move through the Want sessions, here's what might start to happen;

You pause before saying yes, and sometimes say no.

You catch yourself mid self-abandonment, and choose differently.

You feel less guilt when asking for help, space or truth.

You being hearing your own wants as valid, not selfish.

You realise, I'm not broken. I'm waking up.

You may not be ready to change everything, but you will see the outlines of what no longer fits and start imagining something truer.

$297 – Because investing in yourself doesn’t have to be a big deal.

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WANT: The First Tiny Rebellion Is for You If you are ready to shift from…

From feeling lost, frustrated, or just done with the way things are → to reconnecting with your inner knowing and reclaiming your sense of possibility.
From thinking you need someone to fix you → to recognising that all you need is the right nudge, the right container, and the right moment to begin.
From being overwhelmed by the idea of changing everything → to taking one small, doable step that actually shifts something real in your life.
From a lifetime of saying yes to everyone else → to learning how to say YES to yourself with clarity, compassion, and no apology.
From confusion and emotional fog → to a moment of clarity: a single, undeniable shift toward recognising that your wants are valid.
From questioning your instincts and second-guessing every feeling → to the ability to stop self-gaslighting and start trusting your own needs.
From people-pleasing or performing → to the confidence to take a first, tangible step that’s yours alone, whether that’s saying no to something draining or yes to something you’ve long denied.
From being defined by your roles → to seeing yourself as a woman with wants, needs, and desires that matter, just as much as anyone else’s.

What Happens Next?

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6 Sessions

Every Friday - 3rd October - 14th November

NO SESSION ON 17th October (Because I'm speaking at an event for World Menopause Day 18/10)

@ 11am-12:15pm AWST

$297 – Because saying YES to yourself shouldn’t be out of reach.

YES, I'M IN!

This is not about fixing yourself. You were never broken.
This is about remembering who you are and knowing that you are allowed to want more.

FAQ: (Or as I like to call it, the “yeah but...” section)

When are the live sessions?

We meet each Friday from the 25th July to the 20th August (inclusive) from 7:30-9am AWST.

What if I can’t make the live sessions?
No stress. Every session is recorded and you’ll have lifetime access to the replays. You can show up live, watch in your own time, or rewatch with a cuppa when life gets noisy (which, let’s be honest, it often does).

Is this therapy?
Nope. This isn’t therapy, counselling, or crisis support, and it’s super important that we’re clear on that. WANT is a guided self-reflection and reconnection space. It’s coaching-flavoured, soul-deep, and grounded in lived experience, not mental health treatment.

This space works not because I fix you but because you show up for yourself in ways you maybe haven’t before. You don’t need to get it right. You just need to be willing to listen a little more closely to the truth rising inside you. That’s where the shift begins not from me, but from you.

Do I get 1:1 access to Kirstin?
Nope. This is a group experience which is intentional. Because here’s the deal. You and the other midlife women who’ll be a part of this are simply … well … fabulous. And you MUST share your fabulousness with one another. If I’ve learned anything about this stage of life, we need women who ‘get us’, around us. So this is another little gift to you - women, who get you.

And here's another reason why ... A big part of Want is learning to set boundaries. How can I ask that of YOU if I also don't do this myself? So yes, while the primary purpose of Want is to give you the gold that comes with it being a GROUP experience, it's also important that I 'live' boundary setting myself, with you.

But … is there any other way to hang out with you, Kirstin?
I am so glad you asked. Because I do also love a good 1-1 D and M. So yes, if you want to spend an hour with me you most certainly can! Just let me know and I'll send you the payment and booking link. I can’t wait to see you! But again, I have to make it super clear - this isn’t therapy. It’s a mentoring session.

I’m already so busy. What if I can’t keep up?
Honestly? That’s kind of the whole point. WANT isn’t another thing on your list, it’s the first thing that’s actually for you. The sessions are short, the practices are simple, and they’re designed to meet you exactly where you’re at. Tell your family you’re busy, lock yourself in a room with your tea, and take an hour that’s truly yours. This can be the first thing you WANT.

I feel guilty spending money on myself.
Of course you do. That guilt’s been baked into us from the beginning. But here’s a gentle truth: WANT might be the first thing you say yes to that’s just for you. $111 is a tiny price for a massive shift in how you see yourself. This isn’t indulgent, it’s essential.

What if I don’t even know what I want?
Then sister, you’re in exactly the right place. That’s the whole point of WANT. You don’t need to have the answers. This is where you begin to hear the questions more clearly. This is the space where what you want starts to come into focus, gently, naturally, and without pressure.

How long do I have access to the content?
Forever. You’ll have lifetime access to all sessions and materials, so you can return any time you need a reminder, a reset, or just a voice saying “you’re not crazy, you’re waking up.”

Is this just for women in perimenopause or menopause?
Not officially, but let’s be real. If you’re anywhere in that hormonal rollercoaster, this will land. That said, if you’re a woman feeling the cracks in the roles and rules you’ve been living by… welcome. You’re home here.

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You Were Taught to Be the 'Good Woman'. A 'Good Mother'. A 'Good Wife'. A 'Good Daughter'. A 'Good Friend'.